Top tips to help children develop their speech and language at home
by Bethanie Hancox on Jun 28, 2021
Back in April 2021, the . So, it鈥檚 no surprise that young children are requiring more support with their language skills. The closures of early years settings, reduced access to vital health services and the changes in interactions with others, have all taken their toll.
We know that early language skills are the biggest predictor of later academic outcomes and success (Bleses, D., Markransky, G., Dale, P.S., Hojen, A. and Ari, B.A. (2016)) and early vocabulary skills can predict academic achievement 10 years later (Applied Psycholinguistics, 37(6), pp.1461鈥1476). Therefore, the development of these skills is more important than ever.
But it鈥檚 not all doom and gloom! Parents, teachers and early years staff have done an amazing job at supporting young children during this time, with limited resources and reduced ability to expose their children to new experiences. And now (dare I say it) things are getting back to some sort of normality, we can start to focus on supporting our little ones even more.
The Communication Pyramid
As I say, we鈥檙e well on the way to getting back on our feet, so let鈥檚 see how we can build on those language skills at home using the 鈥榗ommunication pyramid鈥 as a guide. As a Speech and Language Therapist, I often get asked how language skills can be supported at home and I always direct parents to this communication pyramid.

It鈥檚 a really simple tool that explains how children鈥檚 speech, language and communication skills develop. Children typically develop their skills in a sequential pattern, starting from the bottom and working their way up. It鈥檚 important that children develop each skill and build on what they have learnt . So using the pyramid, here are my top tips for supporting language development at home:
Attention and Listening
Eliminating Background Noise
Technology has become a central way to how we communicate, work and interact with each other. When used the right way, it has an essential place in developing children鈥檚 language and communication skills. Watching television or using devices such as iPads, provides children with opportunities to observe what other people are doing and saying. However, if noise is present in the background continually, . It鈥檚 all about getting the balance right! When interacting with your child:
- Reduce as much background noise as possible, such as turning the television off
- Get down to your child鈥檚 level, call their name and wait for them to look at you before you begin to talk. This way, you will have your child鈥檚 attention and they are more likely to be able to process the information you have given them
Bubble Play
Everyone loves bubbles! They are a key resource for all Speech and Language Therapists, as they are highly motivating and can do so much to support a child鈥檚 attention and listening skills, as well as develop their functional communication.
- Try getting down to your child鈥檚 level, calling their name and saying 鈥渂ubbles鈥. At this point, your child will either point to the bubbles, look at you or even try to grab them! All of these actions are communicative intents, so acknowledge them by saying 鈥淪ophie wants bubbles鈥
- When your child is focused on you, blow bubbles and model language such as 鈥渂ubbles鈥, 鈥減op鈥, 鈥渜uick鈥 etc
- When the bubbles have been popped, your child is likely to use those communicative intents again. This is your opportunity to say 鈥渕ore bubbles?鈥 and even use a sign alongside to support their understanding of 鈥榤ore鈥

Play and Interaction
Turn-Taking
The ability to take turns is an essential conversational skill. When we talk to each other, we take turns to be the listener and the responder. Children start to develop this skill very early on through play. To support your child to develop this skill, consider playing games that encourage your child to wait, and where more than one person gets a turn. Have a go at some of these simple, yet effective games.
- Building a tower. Take it in turns to put a piece on the top. Ensure you model the phrases 鈥渕y turn, your turn鈥, 鈥淒addy鈥檚 turn, Charlie鈥檚 turn鈥
- Rolling a ball to each other. Increase the number of people in the game so your child has to learn to wait longer
- Using a car ramp, taking it in turns to push a car down. This is a great toy to use to help children understand cause and effect. Modelling language such as 鈥渞eady..steady鈥.go!鈥 helps your child to stay engaged within that interaction
Understanding Language
Keeping Communication Age-Appropriate
When we are interacting with children, it is so important to ensure our language matches the level of the child鈥檚 understanding. 'Key words' or 'information-carrying words' are the number of important words in a sentence that a child has to understand in a given instruction, in order for them to follow it successfully. Children don鈥檛 need to understand every single word in a sentence, just the ones that carry meaning.
Examples of keyword-level instructions:
For each of these instructions, a choice of objects would be given to the child. If there are no choices, this would mean there are 0 keywords to understand.- 1 keyword 鈥 鈥渟how me the spoon鈥
- 2 keywords 鈥 鈥渟how me the big teddy鈥
- 3 keywords 鈥 鈥減ut the dolly under the table鈥
- 4 keywords 鈥 鈥済ive the big cake to the little dog鈥
Children typically develop their understanding of keywords by the following ages:
Key word level |
Age |
1 keyword |
1 year old |
2 keywords |
2 years old |
3 keywords |
3 years old |
4 keywords |
4 years old |
It鈥檚 important to keep your language as simple as possible when giving your child instructions, always taking their keyword-level understanding into consideration. Children find it easier to process language when you chunk longer instructions into bite-size pieces, simplify and give them time to respond.
Talking
Comments and Questions
As adults, all we want is for our children to talk. To be able to express themselves and engage in conversations. However, it鈥檚 easy to think that we can help children do this by asking them lots of questions. In fact, this can have the opposite effect and can actually make a child say less, particularly if they don鈥檛 have the language required to respond. Questions can be really important and useful to ask but only when you really need to know the answer. Try commenting rather than questioning:
- Using really simple language, comment on what your child is doing or looking at
- Your child will begin to map these words onto the objects/actions you are commenting on, especially when they are motivated by them
- If your child uses any single word, expand on what they have said by adding another word. For example, if your child says 鈥樷渃ar鈥, you could say 鈥測es, big car鈥
Speech Sounds
Modelling
As children start to develop their use of speech sounds, you may find that these sounds are not always clear or easy to understand. Sometimes, children .
One of the key strategies that we give to parents is to model clear speech sounds and to try not to correct your child or make them produce a sound that they are finding difficult. By giving your child opportunities to hear the correct production of sounds in words, it enables them to store these sounds accurately, for example:
- If your child has said a word unclearly, repeat the word back to them, modelling the correct sounds
- If your child sees a key and says 鈥渢ea!鈥, respond with 鈥測ou鈥檙e right! It鈥檚 a k别测!鈥&苍产蝉辫;
- Show interest in what your child is saying, not just how they are producing sounds
- Go on a 鈥榮ound hunt鈥 鈥 gather objects that begin with the target sound and hide them around your home. As your child finds them, you can model the vocabulary for them, emphasising the target sounds
When to get help from a speech therapist?
If your child is having difficulty making themselves understood or has difficulty understanding what is said to them then they may benefit from an assessment. 九色视频 therapy has a team of highly qualified therapists ready to work with you and your child. It's useful to find a therapist you feel you connect with so I would advise browsing the directory to find the best therapist for you.
If you would like my advice about who would be a good fit for your child you can call and speak to me or one of my speech and language colleagues.
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